This comes with a disclaimer: I love my heritage, and don’t mean to run down or offend any community.
Wondering why I’m saying that?
Well simply because I’m looking for an answer to the question: Am I a Tamilian or a Malayali?
History tells me we (Palaghat Iyers/TamBrams) are just migrants from Tanjore who crossed the border for survival. If that’s the case, we are Tamilians, right? Then why is it that the Tamilians don’t consider us entirely Tamil?
Born and brought up in Chennai, I know how people always liked hearing me talk, not because am funny, but simply because they liked my sing-song accent. And whenever I went to Kerala to meet my relatives — and I tell you we Palakkad Iyers have a lot of relatives in the God’s own country — people always referred to me as a ‘pattar’.
What’s that? In Sanskrit it just means ‘Brahmin.’ So do we go around giving all the communities generic names just because they don’t really know where they belong?
For movie buffs like me, it’s quite easy to get disgusted with society’s blinkered view of us. If you have watched Nala Damayanthi, Michel Madana Kama Rajan or Malayalam movies like Iyer the Great, Sethuraman Iyer, you would know we are always stereotyped as cooks and crooks.
I know we are smart and great in the kitchen, but to always display the men in our community without shirts and women in madisaru (the 9-yard saree married women wear) is preposterous!
The best part about us TamBrams is the fact that we respect and follow both cultures equally. Our office managers might raise their eyebrows, given the number of ‘offs’ we take to mark our festivals, but from welcoming King Mahabali to celebrating the festival of lights, we do both cultures justice.
I remember how I once asked a Malayali friend of mine for “Vishu Kaineetam” (an important ritual associated with the Vishu celebrations) and he told me to decide if I was a Mal or a Tam for the day.
Didn’t he know that it obviously it depended on the amount I get?
Take our food for example, a fine blend of Tamil Nadu and Kerala.
We are vegetarians, and quite obsessed about the idea too. Rice might be our staple diet but it’s the coconut we use in our cooking which fills our stomachs.
Speaking of food, ask any outsider what he/she knows about us, and all they can say is ‘thair saadam’ (Curd Rice). In this case, they are right.
We might have a lavish meal set for 100 people, but the one thing which you can be sure will be wiped clean is curd rice.
A TamBram (as they fondly call us) can survive on just curd rice for years. Even if they go all the way to the US, you can be sure they would make their own curd at home.
That reminds me of our obsession with the idea of the US.
For some, its pure heaven. For others it’s just a TamBram adda (hang out).
We graduate from IIT, usually top the class, and take the first flight out. What with our nicely-combed, oily hair, tucked-in formal shirt and holy ash-filled forehead, any desi there can identify us. I’m sure that’s the Tamil blood in us.
The Malayali side of us takes us to Ayyappan temples every evening. It’s not that Tamilians are not pious, but the obsession for neatness and serenity, comes from the Keralites’ field. We stand in queue for prasadam, and arrive late to office simply because we want to listen to one more MS Subalakshmi’s song.
I can go on and on. But I still don’t know which side of the blanket I’m from. I do know that I love my early morning filter coffee, Carnatic music and my diversified heritage.
Despite Chetan Bhagat thinking we are self-obsessed and the movies making fun of us, I can, and will, proudly say am a Iyer Aathu Ponnu.








